{"id":203,"date":"2015-01-10T12:00:17","date_gmt":"2015-01-10T20:00:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/icanthascheezburger.com\/wordpress\/?p=203"},"modified":"2015-01-09T11:43:07","modified_gmt":"2015-01-09T19:43:07","slug":"the-im-guilty-of-this-too-trope","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/icanthascheezburger.com\/wordpress\/2015\/01\/the-im-guilty-of-this-too-trope\/","title":{"rendered":"The &#8220;I&#8217;m guilty of this too&#8221; trope"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You&#8217;ve all gotten that email or spoken message from a boss, preaching to the team about how everyone needs to break some bad habit.<\/p>\n<p>And then they say it.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I know it&#8217;s tough. I&#8217;m guilty of this too, but we all need to come together and stop doing this.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Can we agree this trope needs to die? Managers will say that almost like it&#8217;s a reflex, feeling like it gives them relatability or credibility. And I&#8217;m sure that the first time in history a manager employed this rhetorical device it did do just that. Nowadays it&#8217;s meaningless. It feels like a component from a criticism template, like when you sandwich a criticism between two compliments (another trope I hate with a passion).<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps the biggest issue with it is that it comes off as &#8220;I know I have this flaw too, yet I&#8217;m the one telling you to change your behavior.&#8221;\u00c2\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>There are better ways to be relatable. If you want to come off as a strong leader, don&#8217;t say &#8220;You guys need to stop doing this thing. I&#8217;m guilty of doing this too.&#8221; Say &#8220;I&#8217;m guilty of doing this thing, and I understand why it&#8217;s harmful, and I&#8217;m going to stop.&#8221; Get people to hold you accountable and follow your lead.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You&#8217;ve all gotten that email or spoken message from a boss, preaching to the team about how everyone needs to break some bad habit. And then they say it. &#8220;I know it&#8217;s tough. I&#8217;m guilty of this too, but we all need to come together and stop doing this.&#8221; Can we agree this trope needs [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false}}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-203","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/icanthascheezburger.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/203","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/icanthascheezburger.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/icanthascheezburger.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/icanthascheezburger.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/icanthascheezburger.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=203"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/icanthascheezburger.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/203\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/icanthascheezburger.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=203"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/icanthascheezburger.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=203"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/icanthascheezburger.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=203"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}